fermentation technology: Black and White thinking and relationships

girly_aspie
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Age: 35
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Posted: Fri Jun 28, 2013 3:46 pm?? ?Post subject: Black and White thinking and relationships

I've been thinking about this lately. In a lot of my past relationships, my rigid thinking has been one of my biggest problems. I can see now that even though I've been with some legitimately bad people, I am very, very intolerant of things that most people would consider minor problems: lateness, what I see as someone changing their story, which makes me guarded and suspicious enough to dump them, etc. I also can see that literal thinking makes me extra prone to problems in relationships. Does anyone else have this problem? Share ... discuss... I'd like this thread to steer away from "why can't I get a date" territory, and focus more on problems people have had KEEPING a relationship. There are already lots of "why won't people date me" threads, thanks. _________________ "Look at you lot, all so vacant. Is it nice not being me? It must be so relaxing" - Sherlock AQ: 44 IQ: 167 Aspie Quiz Result: 185/200 NT result: 22/200 BAP: 132 aloof, 108 rigid and 121 pragmatic

mikassyna
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mikassyna
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Geekonychus
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Rooster1968
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Rooster1968
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girly_aspie
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Joined: May 16, 2013
Age: 35
Posts: 209

Posted: Fri Jun 28, 2013 11:09 pm?? ?Post subject:

This all fits with me too, especially making a big deal out of little things and then not reacting to big things. I remember once getting enraged with a boyfriend because he said I was "the most beautiful woman in the world." I looked at him and said that he was wrong. He insisted I was, trying to be all sweet. I then got into a huge argument with him about how even to a biased point of view, there are many, many, many women much more beautiful than I am, so that's an unrealistic compliment and I don't find it believable or flattering. Yeahhhhh. I know. I had to have him explain that he just meant to say that he thought I was beautiful. I said "oh, why didn't you just say that then? That would have been nice." That's more an example of how I got caught up in literal thinking, but at least I can look back and laugh now. _________________ "Look at you lot, all so vacant. Is it nice not being me? It must be so relaxing" - Sherlock AQ: 44 IQ: 167 Aspie Quiz Result: 185/200 NT result: 22/200 BAP: 132 aloof, 108 rigid and 121 pragmatic

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